There's a rant brewing and I'll tell you why... I've got an 8 year old boy who's just started in my classes. His behaviour history over the last few years is totally appalling. It's dreadful that he's been allowed to behave this way for so long, but I'm not really shocked. I deal with this sort of thing every day in my job of taking on kids who are at the point of being permanently kicked out of school and successfully managing their behaviour.
Anyway, this little guy's behaviour is very bad...
The rant isn't about this little boy.... No, he's not the problem as he'll be fine before we know it...
My rant is about the adults in his school, and in so many other schools, who've allowed this situation to arise in the first place. Adults are useless, hopeless, awful...
What on earth have they done to make me rant to this degree? They've only written to a 'higher authority' complaining about this little guy! They can't be responsible in any way, can they? So much easier to whinge and moan, eh?
What do they want to happen as a result? I don't know really but I imagine they want him to be taken away and not to darken their doors again...
Come on Liz, surely that's reasonable and they'd want him to go to another school? No, it is not reasonable - in fact it's totally unreasonable... Why? Well, as I've said so many times, children's behaviour is an adult problem. Ok, kids are behaving badly, but why? Because the adults are getting it so wrong, that's why...
My message to these adults and others who continually whinge and moan about children's behaviour is that they have to be prepared to take an adult's responsibility for the problems they've allowed to deteriorate into the mess we now have in schools and homes.
Why do kids behave badly? Simple... because they can and nobody does anything about it to stop it happening !! Well apart from whinge and whine and moan that is... and that's hardly effective, is it?
Adults need to look at their own behaviour and accept that if they want any child's behaviour to change they're going to have to make changes to their own behaviour first. Nothing will happen differently unless they do... It just won't happen.
Adults, you need to get a grip! Admit it - if you don't know how to change then you've got things to learn. It's really not difficult to learn to do what adults should be doing - managing children's behaviour!
You'll be pleased to know that I've finished my rant!!
About the Author:
Liz Marsden is a highly experienced and successful child behaviour management expert. She uses her expertise to train teachers, trainee teachers and parents to manage children's extreme behaviour. Visit Liz's website where you can access her highly recommended book and learn about her behaviour management techniques that are proved to work time after time.
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